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Spermy, Spermy, Sperms!

December 15, 2014 by Sacha Black 1 Comment

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This is quite possibly the most exciting personal post I have written in a while. The posts about my life and memoirs seem to be getting rarer, but this blog was created originally as a memoir, so I refuse to let go of that side completely, no matter how much it’s evolved, so sorry to all the folk out there who signed up to read all about writing, this ones a memoir.

A long time ago, I was told I probably wouldn’t be able to have children. It’s a long story, but it ended up in me falling pregnant rather quickly and a hasty retreat by the fertility clinic.

Thankfully we managed to get pregnant, and nine extremely long months later, and 3.5 days of excruciating labour, baby Black was born. The best year of my life followed, and a difficult decision about sperm.

The wife and I thus far haven’t really wanted another child. Not for any other reason than, we need to pay off the cost of the first baby, and buy a house to make sure we can provide for him first before having another one.

We have spent a long time discussing whether having another one would suit us, and our family. We bickered a lot to start with, but I guess that’s normal for most couples. As time has gone on we have continued to learn lots of parenting lessons and are continually growing together on our journey.

Deciding whether to save sperm for another child has been a topic of much contention. It’s difficult trying to predict what we might or might not want to do in a few years time.

Of course, even if we didn’t save sperm we could have another child using another donor, but if the option is there to use the same donor, we are both in agreement that we would prefer to use them.

So we came to a cross road… To save or not to save? It’s an extremely costly affair saving sperm. To save enough for three attempts it’s a whopping £1000 for three years, and another £300 every three years to continue to have it stored.

BUT, we decided to save some, just in case. I am not saying we will have any more kids, as at the minute neither of us can see it happening, however, we are trying to protect our options, ensure that we aren’t taking our choices away and making a decision about how we will feel in 5 or 6 years time.

So there we have it… Very exciting news, the Black’s have a bank… a bank of sperm! (can’t help but giggle like a child about this!) But SHHHHH! It’s a secret!

 

Filed Under: babies, Family, Fertility, Gayby Boom, IUI, Kids, Lesbian, LGBT, Life Events, pregnancy, The Wife, women Tagged With: babies, baby, donor, family, fertility, IUI, IVF, kids, lesbian, LGBT family, pregnancy, rainbow family, sperm, sperm bank, Sperm donation, TTC, wife

Forget terrible twos, why didn't anyone tell me about the terrible ten months?

October 23, 2014 by Sacha Black Leave a Comment

As I promised, this would be a blog of two halves, partly about my life as a mum, writer, and worker bee, and partly about writing, and my quest to get published.

So, this is a motherhood post.

Everybody knows about the terrible twos, how truly awful they are with screaming tantrums and public paddies.

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Hideously embarrassing and the phase I suspect most parents dread in young children. BUT SERIOUSLY…. why did no one tell me about the horrific change that happens at ten months? My son is now ten and a half approaching eleven months, and it was like an alien literally took over his body and possessed his previously calm temperament.

Nappy changing is simply an impossibility without an army of spare hands, arms and legs to pin your gremlin of a child in place while you change them. Ok, so distraction occasionally works too, but not as well as it used to! He now likes to pitch an absolute bitch of a screaming fit, when I get him dressed, try and do his teeth, or anything that even remotely changes his current situation.

In spite of the fact I’ve read a million mum blogs, help sites read books and compared notes with a hundred friends, it kind of doesn’t matter what they say or suggest because baby black, is just going to make life difficult his own way! When I find a solution I’ll report back!

 

Filed Under: angry lesbian, babies, blogging, Family, Fertility, Gayby Boom, IUI, Lesbian, LGBT, Life Events, mum, people observations, philosophizing Tagged With: babies, fertility, lesbian, lesbian mum, life lessons, motherhood, mummy lessons, naughty kids, rainbow family, tantrums, toddlers

Baby rooms

August 13, 2013 by Sacha Black 6 Comments

So we painted the babies room a cafe latte type colour – pretty neutral – but you can’t really tell from the photos, ive tried to add a photo of the colour from a website….and we added the vinyl tree and a billion teal leaves this evening…. Just family photos to go! I think the words are just lovely 🙂

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Filed Under: babies, Family, Fertility, IUI, Lesbian, LGBT, Life Events, pregnancy Tagged With: babies, decorating, family, home decor, infertility, IUI, IVF, lesbian, pregnancy, rainbow family

20 Week Scan

July 16, 2013 by Sacha Black 4 Comments

I said I would update you on the 20 week scan… and here I am.

Everything is normal and healthy – although the babies legs are a little on the short side. The sonographer said that they were in the normal range, but on the shorter end of normal. Both me and my mum have short legs, so this wasn’t a huge surprise. I figure, I grew to be normal height for a girl 5″5/6 so I figure this baby will too. Mum said I was short for a baby, but I am average height now. Also the donor was 6″3 so I am hoping that his genes will take over the height issue. Although my dad is not tall for a guy, only 5″7/8….

Anyway… Scans…

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Our novelty shot – the baby sticking its fingers up at us!!

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sat down legs out.

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sucking its thumb

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boxing pose.

So – as you can see – our baby is a wriggler, it didn’t stop moving the whole scan, and infact the sonographer complained that she couldn’t get a clear shot for the measurements because it wouldn’t stay still!

Explains all the jabs and pokes I have been feeling!!

Anyway… before I tell you what it is…. Lets have a vote…..

Who thinks its a girl, and who thinks it’s a boy?

Filed Under: babies, Fertility, IUI, Lesbian, LGBT, Life Events, pregnancy Tagged With: 20 weeks, babies, baby, fertility, infertility, IUI, IVF, LGBT family, pregnancy, rainbow family, scan, Sonographer, ultrasound

Baby Bump – 20 weeks… nearly!

July 9, 2013 by Sacha Black Leave a Comment

Two days time I will be 20 weeks. but thought it was high time I uploaded a bump shot!!

 

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kind of a weird shape no?!

Filed Under: babies, Family, Fertility, IUI, Lesbian, LGBT, Life Events, pregnancy Tagged With: 20 weeks pregnant, Baby bump, family, fertility, infertility, IUI, IVF, lesbian, LGBT, pregnancy, pregnancy bump, rainbow family, second trimester

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